A few weeks ago, I noticed with horror that my son and another boy (from music class)were fighting on our front lawn. I had a strong urge to stop the violence, but I checked myself and watched just a bit longer. I noticed they were both equally matched, and both were enjoying themselves immensely. Ahhh, this must be masculine fun.
I again noticed this aggression the other day as David and a few children from church were playing on some playground equipment. I watched in disbelief as my gentle son sat at the top of the slide and kicked a boy in front of him down the slide. They both laughed as David slid down after him.
It’s funny, because I would probably make a rule like “Absolutely No Fighting” and “No Kicking.” Instead, I’m pondering discussions like “Make Sure the Other Child Is Having Fun” and “Wrestle with Boys Only.” I want my son to be a man. As I have said before, I’ll be interested to see how his God-given personality develops. It will be fun to see the mind of a boy develop into a man. I can see how easy it is to force him to think and act like a woman. I want him to be kind and gentle, and I still do think those qualities are important and masculine, but I must not be intimidated by the masculine part of him. Aggression is not incompatible with kindness.