I’ve been observing lately how my emotions interfere with my parenting.
When my kids disobey, it’s so easy for me to take it personally, and a little edge gets into my voice. I’ve heard that edge mirrored in my kids. I’ve also detected the same whiny tone in my voice that I detest in theirs. When they are emotionally resisting a change in schedule, I sometimesÂ have a hard time resisting the urge to emotionally reason with them to calm them down. It sounds a bit like pleading. Sometimes I am troubled to hear a note of triumph when my children do something I clearly told them not to. Aha! I caught you.
It would be nice if I could be completely matter-of-fact when I deal with my children in all of these situations. But all my attempts at controlling my behavior have the same result– failure! I suppose I could be biblical and deal with the underlying beliefs that are manifesting themselves in my actions. Novel thought.