Jay Younts (who wrote the book Everyday Talk) answers this question from a reader:
What advice do you have in helping a two year old to view discipline as “an adornment” and not merely as correcting bad behavior?
- tone of voice
- praying when we discipline, discipline that is not vengeful (or motivated primarily because of our annoyance or irritation at being disobeyed or the offense itself)
Every mother of a toddler should read his post.