I learned something new today!
Chapter 4 in Mom’s book is titled, Understanding Your Child’s Personality. At first glance, the material appears extra-biblical. In truth, the principles in this chapter have a tremendous biblical basis, even though they’re not given in the book. The teacher has to do the work to get them. (It’s one of the suggestions for change I will make in this book.) Mom’s biggest point is that by understanding our children, we’re better able to love them and discipline them. As well, it’s helpful to examine biblically what our attitude should be toward the circumstances we cannot change (like Moses and Paul), how we should view our responsibility as parents to provide experiences and resources (like friends), and how the Holy Spirit can transform a neutral (or in our eyes negative) personality trait into character that can be used for His glory (Galatians 5).
Lee’s aunt joined our group this morning, and said something I was excited about. I’ve been brainstorming to figure out how in the world our daughter’s care-free personality could possibly be used of God, and Aunt Sally gave one suggestion. She said that women who are careful about details tend to be stressed out when company comes, but someone who can relax and enjoy company (without worrying about the details) tends to make others feel at ease. Her strength will be an asset as she develops a spirit of hospitality. My heart leaps; she’s right! I can see Bethel putting people at ease with her humor and relaxed view on life. And I can also see that she very well might develop the ability to focus on savoring Christ above being Martha-like busy.
The discussion was helpful for me, because I’ve been looking at a personality trait that seems like a perpetual liability. Under the Holy Spirit’s control, it can become an incredible tool for God’s glory. That thought almost makes me cry.
If you’re interested, here’s the link for the book, Parenting with Wisdom. Scroll down until you see the title Precept upon Precept (the original title of the book).