Let’s imagine for a bit.
Let’s pretend a mother and father commit themselves to living righteously and biblically, in accordance with biblical commands and principles. They might be called gospel centered.
Let’s suppose that they look different than some in their Bible preaching church. They attend all services, participate in activities, and actively seek friendships in the church. They just look different. Another godly couple in the church notices some significant differences in their lives, and feel uncomfortable. They think, Are they legalists? Do they think they are more spiritual than other people in the church? This couple asking questions desire to be biblical and righteous; so they decide to talk with this strange couple (instead of simply assuming that their differences are legalistic or worldly).
What will they discover? Here is where your imagination needs to take over. In the best case scenario, how would the different couples share their thoughts on why they do what they do? What would it look like? What phrases would they avoid? What phrases would help them communicate their heart humbly and graciously? Would each godly couple share scripture and hope the other couple adopts their position?
There’s a reason these questions are important to me.
I’ve noticed that if I try to respond graciously about differences I have with others, my children have interpreted this grace as “it doesn’t make a difference what we do.” I’d like to be able to communicate that my choices matter–it’s not inherently prideful to believe I have made the best choice possible– but at the end of the day I’m responsible for me only (or me and my family).
What Scriptures would you consider helpful on this topic? Tomorrow I’ll share the passage of Scripture I’m thinking through, and the Bible words that may give us some direction.