Lee kindly brought home an article on potty training an older child. The advice wasn’t helpful at all, since pottytraining isn’t a power struggle for David as far as I can tell. And I don’t coddle him when I change his messy underwear. He just doesn’t care.
What was encouraging was this statement “A child [at David’s age] who is of normal intelligence and has no physical problems can be considered to be resistant to potty training, not merely untrained”
Sounds silly, but knowing this isn’t typical or expected was helpful. Now I need to go (honestly) change a messy little boy.