The feeling of incompetence peaks when bringing that first baby home from the hospital, and peaks again (how is it even possible?) when that baby is learning to live life on his own. In both seasons I wished upon a star (or prayed) that I would always know the right thing to say and do. No mistakes for me, please.
Not knowing rankles, kid!
But then I remember that God’s strength is made perfect in weakness.
And I remember the horrible discovery that I made when I asked my 10-year-old daughter to select a book from our more than adequate library. Reader, she could not. I discovered that, while every child needs a librarian to hand over a book that is exactly what she wants, that child does not need a librarian every time she needs a book. I learned the hard way that always knowing just the right book for my daughter, and feeling the deep satisfaction when my guesses are affirmed, was not in her best interest. Why bother thinking if someone else does it for me?
That event causes me to view my inadequacies differently now. I can help them find a good book, but I don’t know how to help them find a job. My children don’t always know what to do, and I sometimes feel incompetent to help them. Sometimes I do know, but in rare insight realize it’s not for me to tell them. Sometimes I haven’t a clue what they should do next or how. And yet, God’s strength is made perfect in my weakness. God knows everything, every answer, but he tells us to search for wisdom. He leads us in discovery, more often than not. I can imitate that.
Sometimes the right answer (I hate it) is “go look it up.”
Sometimes we discover why together. (Note to self: “Have you considered” is better than “You need to”)
And sometimes the answer is “I have no idea, but seek the Lord, and he will give you everything you need.”
Just know, kid, that you do not need all the answers.
Ann says
Wow, thank you! Your message came at just the right time as I ‘over struggle’ for 2 young adult children who are struggling. Thanks for the Godly perspective.
Michelle says
It’s hard to see people we love perplexed about the next steps. Reminding myself now that God is caring for them just like he cares for me. Thanks for your encouragement! (And I’ll pray for you too!)
Lauren Mathues says
What a timely thought! I’m leading a Bible study through the book of Revelation, and we are frequently met with this fact. Fact. Yesterday, we reflected together that we are trusting. God has told us everything that we need to know, so if we don’t know it, and if he doesn’t reveal it, it is not imperative for our obedience and his delight in us.
Michelle says
I like how you say this– especially that we want our obedience conditional on understanding. What a fun discussion to have among people who are gathering to know more and more about God’s Word! Blessings to you and your ministry! (Was wonderful seeing your mama this month!)