I’m realizing that there are many times my desire for communication doesn’t coincide with my children’s desire. I interpret their reluctance to talk as an absolute, but I’m realizing it’s not always a desire to close the subject completely. Sometimes (they don’t even realize this) they’re uncomfortable with the intensity of personal communication, even as they earnestly crave it. Their responses help me to glimpse a little of this attitude, and it encourages me.
- Is this something you want to talk about another time?
- Would you like to talk later about how I can help you with this?
- When would you like to talk about this?