I have a five year old who whines routinely, cries when she doesn’t get her own way, and wants her own way most of the time. As she came to tell me about a sister who did not move when she told her to, I informed her that her sister was not being mean, and that her desire was unreasonable in this case.
As I watched her process this information (atypically without tears) I thought, What if I saw my role with my daughter as simply a definer of these types of situations– interpreting for her when she cannot have her own way, and when she’s actually been treated unfairly. What if a child needs a patient interpreter of life to repeatedly help her understand she is not the center of the universe?
Usually, I’m thinking more like an antagonist: My child is whining and complaining. Whining and complaining are sins, and thus I must do or say what is necessary to stop such behavior in my child.
Maybe these aren’t mutually exclusive ideas. Just thinking.