All of my children have told me I should blog on this topic.
Awhile back, we started addressing a child’s habit of saying “I know” in response to instruction or information.
We saw great improvement, particularly when the child realized that “I know” was not true.
The last month or two, we’ve noticed “I know” creeping back into the vocabulary of more than one child. As our children have gotten older, they are pushing back a little when we point out the habit. “What if I really DO know?”
It’s a good question. Now we have been addressing the underlying motivation for making sure the other person KNOWS we know. These have been good discussions, and the children are listening and responding. The only trouble has been that our dear children have been observing that mom and dad say “I know” regularly, too. “But when we say it, it’s an appropriate time to say it.”
That’s our first reaction, but truth be told, for us, just as for them, a better response is, “True.” or “You’re right.” Can you hear the subtle shift from self and pride to respect and attention to the speaker?
Now you know why all of our children have suggested blogging on “I know.”
Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: James 1:19
A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards. Proverbs 29:11
A fool hath no delight in understanding, but that his heart may discover itself. Proverbs 18:2
He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him. Proverbs 18:13