Laurel is now two. She’s also emotional. Over the last weekend, Laurel cried because:
- She wanted to get into the box that Bethel was playing in.
- She wanted the dinosaur placemat that Bethel asked for.
- She wanted the purple spoon after she got first choice and picked the blue spoon and Bethel got the second choice and picked the purple spoon.
- She didn’t want milk in her blue cup, but in her rocket cup (because is has a funny straw, we give them only water in that cup).
I started feeling rather guilty. What have I been doing wrong? Why is my child crying nearly every time she doesn’t get her way?
Then it hit me. Because she’s not getting her way. That’s a good thing, not a bad thing. I could stop the distress immediately if I caved in. It would be easy to command older brother and sister to give her whatever she wants. I could anticipate what she will cry about and give it to her. All that will give me peace, right?
So, since I vaguely remember this stage with the other two, I’ll continue my course. I don’t need to make up situations where I don’t give her what she wants. I’ll continue to gve her good things (say yes when I can). I’ll continue to insist that she ask politely for something instead of crying for it. I’ll continue to say no when she’s taking toys from others, selfishly insisting on her way when she’s been told no, and when I see a good reason for not saying yes (like not letting her eat a grape sonic slushie on the carpet).
And she’ll probably continue to cry for awhile.