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I find this is easier for some kids than others. I spent a lot of time trying to manage this for a bit and then found that my attention to it detracted from what I was trying to teach them. I started getting good and determining whether it was out of disrespect or an attempt to decrease their own shameful feelings. My personal experience was when I stopped giving it attention, and spoke for shorter periods of time, it stopped being an issue. Every kid is different though. 🙂
Laura— I think you’re right here, especially about the length of talking time. I know that at least one child finds difficult the intensity of corrective conversations of any length. I’ve had to lower my intensity (a good thing anyway) when talking, and for awhile I didn’t make it an issue at all. However, I realized that the aversion to looking someone in the eyes was starting to become a habitual response. So I started addressing it directly. It makes me smile, though, to think of how difficult it is to cover all the weird facial expressions with a single command. That’s when I posted my comments. 🙂
I agree Michelle. At times I have just broken down laughing at the many different ways to avert ones eyes, or not try desperately NOT to avert the eyes, but do everything else under the sun to avoid vulnerability. At least laughing released the tension that was building 🙂
I find this is easier for some kids than others. I spent a lot of time trying to manage this for a bit and then found that my attention to it detracted from what I was trying to teach them. I started getting good and determining whether it was out of disrespect or an attempt to decrease their own shameful feelings. My personal experience was when I stopped giving it attention, and spoke for shorter periods of time, it stopped being an issue. Every kid is different though. 🙂
Thanks for the smile. My two won’t look at me. We are working on this.
Laura— I think you’re right here, especially about the length of talking time. I know that at least one child finds difficult the intensity of corrective conversations of any length. I’ve had to lower my intensity (a good thing anyway) when talking, and for awhile I didn’t make it an issue at all. However, I realized that the aversion to looking someone in the eyes was starting to become a habitual response. So I started addressing it directly. It makes me smile, though, to think of how difficult it is to cover all the weird facial expressions with a single command. That’s when I posted my comments. 🙂
love this.
I agree Michelle. At times I have just broken down laughing at the many different ways to avert ones eyes, or not try desperately NOT to avert the eyes, but do everything else under the sun to avoid vulnerability. At least laughing released the tension that was building 🙂